“While it is essential to be compassionate, as life is atypical right now, it is equally important to stay focused only on problems that you can solve. To repeatedly grumble about the state of things, when there is nothing to do about it, is a sure-fire way to misery.”
There are parenting strategies that work. You can change your child’s habits, get them to listen, and go to bed on time, and get siblings to get along, and get through homework and responsibilities without a battle.
This is more germane now than ever, given our lives under COVID. Parents are often describing home where children struggle with acting out, losing their temper, and treating family members poorly. Often more miserable than happy, these children have parents ‘dancing’...
“How do we best prepare them and instill a sense of inner strength, toughness, or perhaps what many call GRIT?”
In the world we live in, it seems that almost everyone and every device we open offers us an opinion or thought about the world we live in. Most of these thoughts are simply not worth the energy that created them. Why is this important? Everyone has a mind that is...
Our brains are designed to learn, and in doing so, we have the capacity to automate almost any behavior. (And by automating, I mean that we do not need to think about it.) As your child is growing up, they are exposed to a vast quantity of information. Most of it they...
Many therapy clients will enter into treatment with a statement similar to the above. They do so when reflecting upon a painful event that has happened to them. Sometimes, they offer this ‘can’t believe it happened to me’ when reflecting upon an entire series of...
Despite the challenges, many of you are getting away, either for a couple of days or maybe it’s a week away at the beach or off to a cabin in the Adirondacks. Either way, questions begin to emerge about how to manage these summer experiences. Here are my top three...
Yes. Challenging times. We all know that. And most of us continue to realize that at many levels, most of us can say something like, ‘Yeah, but it could always be worse.” And that would be true. So, as often the case, it comes down to working the inside game of our...
After the recent months of being cooped up inside, many of us feel ready to let go and have some freedom. However, when we honestly look back at your children’s lives, many have had little structure and much freedom. With summer rapidly moving along, it is important...
After many years in practice, the benefit of following both parents and children over the years (and sometimes decades) adds depth to the findings in the clinical literature. It becomes fascinating to watch as habits patterns emerge, and impact upon future lives....
