Tired of living with this constant sibling fighting, consider ordering “The Sibling Solution”. This is a highly focused parenting program, which walks you through a specific program that will eliminate the wide majority of sibling battles; not all, but most will be gone in a matter of weeks. Not ready yet? Keep reading.Another key message that parents don’t clearly communicate to children is “You can handle it.” Instead, we come to their rescue. It’s essential that you stop doing this, unless the children are engaging in dangerous behavior. If you make a habit of rescuing your children from each another, you’ll be doing it forever.
2. Not Noticing When Things Are Going Well.
The second mistake parents make is failing to notice when their children are playing cooperatively and happily. We tend to ignore the good times and focus our attention on conflicts. It’s essential to pay attention to your children while they are getting along. You don’t need to comment specifically on the cooperative play. Just give them a hug, a touch on the shoulder, or a smile. Ask a quick question or play with them for a minute. Any form of engagement will do. At first, do this 10 to 20 times a day, every day. You’ll be watering the seeds of new behavior that may take weeks to grow, so be patient.
3. Trying To Resolve Children’s Conflicts For Them.
The third big mistake parents make is trying to resolve their children’s conflicts. This communicates to the children that they can’t resolve their own conflicts and allows them to develop a devastating set of beliefs that will impair their relationships in many ways.Also, it doesn’t work. When parents try to resolve or stop arguments, they’re paying attention to behavior they want to eliminate. As the conflict intensifies, so does the response, until the parent is yelling or threatening. This strategy may get results in the short term, but as time goes on, you’ll find that you’re intervening more and more, while the bickering just gets worse.Teachers usually don’t try to resolve student conflicts, because they know they won’t be able to sort it out. The conflict may be very complicated and may go back to events that occurred hours or days ago. The adult is entering a world where there is no definitive truth. Teachers also understand that intervening creates overly dependent children.Parents may be concerned that ignoring their children’s squabbling will teach them that fighting is okay. In fact, the opposite is true. When you ignore what you don’t want, it will wither away. Likewise, notice and attend to the behavior you do want, and it will grow.So pay attention to the cooperative and calm times. Your child’s brain will learn that fighting gets nothing from you, while calm, cooperative behavior gets noticed. This is a powerful tactic. When you order The Sibling Solution
you get a detailed plan which explains when and how to deliver these powerful moments of noticing the positive. It’s not the way most parent do it! And that’s why most families struggle with this problem.Finally, one more key point that pulls all of this together for kids, but first… consider this:
4. Trying To Stop Conflicts With Words. Learn To Use Effective Consequences.
Words won’t teach your kids to stop fighting with each other, but consequences will. Ignore the little stuff and intervene in your children’s conflicts only when you’re prepared to follow through with a consequence. In other words, when you step in, you’re going to do something, not just say something.In The Sibling Solution
you can learn more about how you do this.It is essential to be consistent; you know that already. However, there are certain rules that – when you follow them – your consequences ACTUALLY WORK! I explain how you intervene and when to do it so your kids learn where the limits are. That’s one of the secrets of terrific parenting!Even in a focused program like The Sibling Solution
you will be exposed to several key strategies behind the Terrific Parenting success. This program has been used with thousands of families. Here’s what a few have to say:
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