Rules Establish Structure and Kids Need This
A well-implemented set of simple rules establishes a structure and rhythm at home, that helps reduce anxiety and calm children. Children need to have a clear sense that someone is in charge, who knows what to do.
Do they like rules? Do they ask for rules? Of course not!
Most will argue and fight about your rules. That’s their job! When you understand this, then you expect them to complain and argue about your new rules. Ignore this. Do not engage or justify your choices, when it comes to rules about the home.
Simply understand this: Your children cannot know what is good for them. If you let them choose, they will eat pizza every night, never touch a veggie and watch TV or play video games till they fall asleep.
Do not be deceived. Your child’s wishes are a barometer for what they WANT, not what they NEED. Repeatedly following our impulsive wants (i.e., the tendency of most children) will only make us overweight, lazy, and, in the end, unhappy.
Most Rules Are Just Wishes: Avoid This Mistake!
The biggest mistake made in setting rules at home is quite common. You get frustrated, decide to change things, and set the kids down to explain the ‘new rules.’ And then, you expect them to follow the rules.