There are more toys, more gadgets, more clothes, more electronics, and more to do than most of us could even have imagined 20 years ago.
Dopamine: Wanting, Choice & Getting No Satisfaction
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“My Child Won’t Listen… What Should I Do?”
As kids get older and mature with a dysregulated set of behaviors and emotions, home life can get miserable. Equally important, the child’s life is on a trajectory of misery and struggle, and no one wants that for their child. Thus, we must think about what genuinely changes an out-of-control child and that brain that is causing such misery at home…
Neurofeedback and ADD/ADHD
As a psychologist now focused primarily on changing brains in measurable ways using Neurofeedback, I get calls weekly from parents or adults asking about the impact of Neurofeedback on distractibility, attentional problems, focusing issues, and over-activity.
Are You A Leader or A Dictator?
Leaders nurture a positive vision and keep their focus there. Children need parents who have a vision of just how good the family can be.
Part 2: From the Normal to the Abnormal: The Path to More Satisfaction
Go the other way. Seek growth over comfort. Do: Don’t talk about doing. Practice good ideas rather than forgetting them. Write down all the good stuff, so you can cherish all that you have the good fortune to experience. Allow life to share some of its abnormally sweet rewards with you.
It’s Not Gonna Happen…So Please Stop Pretending.
For you, how many times have you sought out good information and then ignored it? You listened to an inspiring Ted talk and then forgot about it by bedtime.
Thanksgiving: Tips for Nurturing Gratitude at Home
Let’s consider giving and gratitude. The very act of giving, when offered without hope for reward or return, brings fascinating benefit. Even when feeling some ‘lack’ in our lives, these moments of giving yield a reward of immense gratitude, instantly and automatically. It just flows into us with overwhelming feelings of warmth and appreciation.
Clinging to the Familiar Is a Trap!
We are creatures of familiarity. We tend to seek out the same experiences, over and over, regardless of whether those experiences are fulfilling. We can be quite dissatisfied, frustrated, anxious, or depressed, and yet we tend to repeatedly turn to the same solutions.
Part II: The Antidote to Raising the Wimpy Child
We want our children to be strong, resilient, and eager to tackle the challenges ahead. So, let us discuss how to get there.
Wimpy and Whiney. It Doesn’t Have to Be That Way.
Life is often challenging. Few argue with that conclusion. And what is needed in those challenging moments is not a wimpy attitude and more whining. Despite this, many of us are raising our children to be wimps. They tend to lean away from challenges, from struggles, and effort. This rarely works out well.
The Tantrum Fixer Approach to End Tantrums/Meltdowns
Temper tantrums are a topic of perennial relevance, except more now than ever. Why? Because Covid has pushed the limits of many homes, with children and teens learning to ‘rule the roost’ through demand and tantrums.
Puny or Powerful?
When we wake up in the morning, here’s what happens to most of us. Residual thought from the day before, whether it be more positive or negative, quickly comes to mind. With that and all the familiarity from yesterday’s events, the mind is quickly back on track to...
