3. Be Prepared To Engage Your Kids As You Travel.
This is particularly true for long travels. Kids appreciate and enjoy our attention when we offer it.Thus, I would encourage you to have books, games, and even electronic toys that you can share with your kids.Encourage periods of independent play, but intersperse these with periods of shared play or reading. When the kids are playing or reading more independently, then (periodically) engage them for brief “moments” (as mentioned above).
The key is to be prepared with the right “stuff” AND to have the right mental attitude. Be ready to engage the kids, and have an attitude that this will be fun. Bring that to conversations and to your shared time, and the trip will be lighter.Well there you have it. The do’s and don’ts that can turn your travels into an enjoyable experience.Another way of saying it: Where your attention goes, their energy flows!Consistently notice what is wrong, and you will find that more and more is “wrong” with your child’s behavior.When you obsess upon noticing and appreciating the behavior you want to nurture, that behavior will grow. You can’t stop it. Your child can’t stop it. It’s got to happen.Does it happen all at once?Of course not! It happens gradually, and expands over a period of four to eight weeks. It can take even longer for certain types of behavior, depending upon the family circumstances.So I encourage you to become more and more willing to take a moment to notice when things are quiet, when kids are getting along, when kids are reading a book quietly…Notice these moments, and then briefly engage your child with a smile, a head nod, a touch on the shoulder, or a compliment. In some way, just simply engage your son or daughter WHILE they are offering the behavior you want to nurture. Put “moments” of your attention to what you value, and their energy will gradually flow there more and more.
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Well there you have it. The do’s and don’ts that can turn your travels into an enjoyable experience.Remember, it remains most important to model the behavior you want your children to develop. If you are in a fatigued, grumpy, and critical mood (demonstrated by your constant criticism and nagging of the kids), then your kids will probably demonstrate the same. In addition, when in that mental state, it is extremely difficult to follow through with the suggestions that I’ve outlined in this newsletter.On the other hand, when you exude a sense of gratitude, happiness with your life, as well as respect for others, it becomes easy to follow through with these suggestions. It is also easy for your kids to learn from the model that you offer.BONUS SECRET FOR TRAVEL SUCCESS: Traveling in peace is something that begins with taking control of daily travel at home, when going to and from regular daily events. When kids learn that you can effectively maintain a peaceful and calm environment in your daily life, traveling long distance becomes a breeze!To learn more about how you can create calm, pleasant travels on a daily basis, click here to learn about the complete, instructional program that Dr Cale created, Daily Travel In-Sanity