If you are worried about a lack of confidence, low self-esteem or a poor self concept, every word of this article maybe important to your child. Please read carefully!
I have been helping parents who are worried sick over their child who has low self-esteem for over 20 years. Many of this parents work hard to encourage their children, support them daily, and work hard to build their self-esteem. But it doesn’t work.
While some children seem to develop their self-esteem naturally, other children need a precise and powerful strategy in order to experience their own strong confidence. If you want a proven psychological strategy that you can put to work in your home today, The Confident Child contains my secret “behind confidential doors” strategy that you must master if you want to quickly eliminate low self esteem, and build your child’s confidence.
The Confident Child is my most advanced confidence building program, but created with a simple step-by-step formula that is easy to follow. You will begin to see a difference in your child’s self confidence in 7 day or less!
Even if – you’ve unsuccessfully tried other approaches.
Even if – your child self-esteem and confidence is lower than you’ve seen it before.
Even if – your son or daughter is unusually withdrawn or even diagnosed with some other condition.
This approach has tested and proven with hundreds and hundreds of children with all variation of self-esteem problems from the most typical to the most extreme.
Do you hear these questions in your home— that point to a lack confidence?
Hey… let’s be honest here. It’s not easy when you try your best to build up their confidence, and all you hear is constant negativity and putting themselves down. For many of you, your children are also overly sensitive — the least little thing just sets them off. and away they go!
And some kids just seem to go into a shell when they get around other kids, and yet you see their strength and what they have to offer. that the other kids just never get to see. It’s very frustrating!
Give me 55 minutes of your time, and I’ll show you how to use your power as a parent to give your child the confidence they deserve – using my guaranteed 5 step easy to use system. I have helped hundreds of familly’s. Want to be next?”
Over the past 23 years of helping families as a Licensed Psychologist, I have listened to thousands of parents worried sick about their children. Their child would never speak up on the playground, or always felt like “I can’t do that…” or simply worried WAY TOO MUCH about others think of them.
These life robbing signs of low self-esteem, and the negativity were starting to affect every area of life, at home and at school. In the classroom, these confidence starved children were hesitant to raise their hand or offer an answer. On the ball field, they would never think about leading, and often refused to keep playing sports unless they were better than everyone. At home, they were pleasant, but when challenged, simply seemed helpless and easily gave up.
The bottom line was— Low self-esteem made life miserable for these children. Their lives were good but the lack of confidence was robbing them of opportunities for enjoyment and friendship.
What could they do? Was there a real problem that they should worry about… or would it just pass on it’s own?
If you find yourself saying “yes” to even one of these critical indicators of low self-esteem, then you likely have a problem. You may have tried conventional approaches, and you find nothing works and in fact, things are getting worse.
But then, I kept reading what you had to say, Dr Cale, and I found hope.
Ultimately I also found the answer to my prayers, when I took what felt like a chance on your Confident Child program. It turned out to be the best parenting decision I ever made. Every aspect of her confidence is better now its like I live with a different child. How is that even possible? What a miracle Dr Cale!
– Annie, mother of 8 year old Justin
My biggest question was, “What can I do that will really help her gain self confidence without feeling like I’m singling her out? The last thing I want to do is make her feel less confident. She is a great kid – very caring, with many gifts. I just wanted to help her discover for himself and get genuinely excited and confident in himself.”
I took a chance on your Building Confidence book, and now. It’s like a different child. I still can’t believe the changes I see in her everyday and so much has happened in a short time.
I think It’s almost like a miracle and the changes I see really are miracles to me. Thank you for this small, but life changing ebook.
– Rachel, mother of 3
These parents are scared to death! They often find themselves talking about their son or daughter who has no confidence, and trying to find ways to build them up. Mom and dad will lay awake at night worrying about their son or daughter. They can only imagine that their child will be robbed of success for the rest of their life.
While in their hearts, they know their child deserves more, these parents clearly understand that life is not kind to those who do not stand up for themselves.
But here’s what most important: None of these parents are ignoring this issue.
They had read books. They worked on building up their childs self-esteem. They would try to correct their son or daughter every time they made such negative comments.
They also did everything they could to encourage participation. They promoted involvement in extracurricular activities. They would attend all of these activities, and constantly support their child with encouragement.
At times, they would take their son or daughter on long walks, or sit with them at night, and offer words of encouragement and support.
These were not lazy parents. These were not parents who were ignoring the issue.
In fact, these were parents who were working extremely hard at building up their children confidence.
In my public speaking, and media interviews, I occasionally get challenged by a parent or interviewer who will assert that the encouragement approach will work. I always remind them just observe. Notice whether you see signs of more confidence and greater self-esteem when you take this approach. Keep your eyes open to what is really happening.
All we have to do is to observe whether or not this seems to make a difference for children. I have been observing for twenty-five years, and I have noticed that the only thing that happens here is that children become more and more dependent upon their parents for esteem and less independent in believing in their own self-worth and self-esteem.
This is damaging than it appears. Why? Because you (unintentionally, of course) teach your child to rely upon the opinions of others to find good feelings about themselves. This is not a good plan. It leaves your child totally at the whim of how others evaluate him/her, and unable to generate the thoughts and beliefs to feel good about just doing their best. Its really dangerous, and destructive! And you don’t have to make those mistakes!
Over the years, I have studied research from many fields, including psychology, child development, family therapy, cognitive therapy, behavior therapy, Ericksonian hypnosis, neurolinguistic programming (NLP), self-development, child psychopathology, and many more.
I have also carefully examined studies on various medications, and medical approaches to helping children who struggle. I have tried many different approaches, and I have discovered what works.
When we think of a child having a self-esteem problem, we tend to think that something is wrong with them. I can tell you that this is not the case. There is nothing wrong with your child. They are whole and complete.It doesn’t mean that there’s not a need for an adjustment. It just means that we want a different mind set, that embraces your child’s wholeness and completeness, as a healthy starting point to build their self-esteem. Without a change in your beliefs, every effort will fail.
Over and over again, we are programmed by the media into thinking that medications will be the magical cure. I can promise you this: there is no medication that will make a difference in your child’s self-esteem.
You can do the research on your own if you’d like, but this is a safe conclusion.
When we understand that we could dissect your child’s brain, we would find that there is no self-esteem tumor, or ugly self-esteem tissue growing inside them.
It does not exist. This understanding can help us gain clarity, as it points us to the thinking problem that exists.
Likewise, there is no chemistry problem that exists. We will not find a chemical imbalance. It too doesn’t exist.
Now don’t get me wrong: your child’s chemistry is affected by their thinking. Healthy thoughts tend to produce positive emotions and that internal chemistry is of one form. On the other hand, unhealthy, negative thinking produces negative chemical effects that feel yucky.
But the chemistry is a consequence of the thinking’not the other way around.
When your child thinks, I cant do it they are thinking a lie. Now they may not be able to do it perfectly the first time, but this is normal. All kids have a learning curve.
It does not exist. This understanding can help us gain clarity, as it points us to the thinking problem that exists.
The difficulty is that your child has begun to think and believe a lie.
This lie is a huge generalization that comes with enormous consequences. The more that they believe the lie, the more it expands. It begins to include other thoughts like Im so stupid and Ill never learn to do that.
All of these lies continue to grow because your son or daughter continues to invest their energy and attention into the lie. As such, it just gets stronger.
That’s right! Your efforts to make it better are actually making it worse. Its not that you are intentionally doing that it’s just the consequence of you working harder their esteeming themselves than they do.
You see it really works this way. As time goes on, if we end of working harder than our children do at anything, they become weaker the harder we work. Self-esteem is like a muscle that they have to develop, and most other approaches don’t get it. They really dont. They teach you solutions that create the illusion that you are helping your child. However, as time goes on, you discover that you hard work isnt helping to change things.
The Confident Child Program uses proven techniques that I have developed from my more than twenty years of experience in helping parents. Most of these parents were worried sick about their child. They were exhausted from endless daily efforts to help, and many had tried years of therapy all failing so obviously that their hopes of a confident child were being squashed.
Yet, these same parents have learned from my program that you absolutely can make a difference in creating self-confident children.
Insiders secret: The focus has been on trying to give it to your child. You cant give it to them. However, you can set up the right conditions so that your child learns how to build confidence from how you handle things (and with my Confident Child Program you will know exactly how to handle things in the right way Guaranteed!).
I’ll show you precisely how to avoid directing your energy towards your child’s self-defeating behavior patterns (almost everyone reading this has made this critical mistake). You’ll learn that a completely distinctive response to your children can really make all the difference between their self-confidence and their self-doubt. Most importantly, you will be equipped with the tools for setting up the conditions that allow your child to get it on their own.
And by the way, that’s the only way they really get it is through their own experience of learning to esteem themselves! I show you how to make certain that your child has the right experiences to learn to esteem themselves and not rely upon others to make them feel good! But that’s only the beginning.
The Confident Child Program is a real sanity-saver for parents because the techniques work and the changes are often noticed within weeks. You will feel less frenzied when you see that your follow-through to the lessons in the program gets real, tangible results and your child’s confidence is improving daily. You will be able to relax as you see your son or daughter growing stronger, and more self-confident.
You see I have been down this path with not one not two not a dozen not a hundred but literally HUNDREDS of families who have struggled with children showing low self-esteem. You get exact easy-to-follow, proven advice for increasing your child’s confidence while avoiding common mistakes. The advice works for all age groups and different types of self-defeating behavior.
Some of you (and you likely know who you are) suffer from a lack of confidence. You have been burdened with this feeling much of your life, and you dont want to pass it on to your children. The good news is that I give you the tools to release your worry and fear because you will know exactly what to do, and how to do it so that your limiting beliefs are not passed on to your children!
I promise, that you will be free of this worry, if you apply the principles and lessons I teach in my program. In other words, you dont have to worry that your personal thoughts and emotions will continue to interfere. You release yourself from responsibility by taking the actions I outline in this program.
I want to warn you. This program requires some change on your part. Some parts of that will feel like a bit of a challenge. Its not for you, if you want a magic solution that doesnt require more of you. I understand that the biggest influence in your childs life is you! You have to get it and then your child can get it. If you order this program, please be prepared for that.
But here is the bottom line: I have been doing this with families for over twenty-five years. I have helped thousands of families nurture homes with children who are more responsible, happier, and eager to engage fully in their lives. With no real change in the game plan, you just keep doing the same thing over and over, its not really going to make a difference.
You probably see this happening already, or you likely would not be reading this letter. Am I right?
Most parenting books try to convince you that making your kids feel good will make them feel strong. It’s just not true. You instead want to teach them to be strong and then they will feel good about themselves rather than just feeling good about a new toy.
Reality Check: If you’re overweight and out of shape, you need to exercise if you want to get in shape. Right?
You could buy some gimmicky thing that tells you you’ll get fit by sitting at your desk and moving your little toe, but the reality is it isn’t true.
You need to go to the gym. If you’re overweight and out of shape, when you go to the gym, its not going to feel good. That’s reality.
Whenever we start to stretch and build muscle, it usually hurts a bit.
In your child’s world, their muscle of personal self-esteem, is weak and out of shape. They must learn to work this emotional muscle, in order to get strong.
If you went to the gym, and someone else lifted the weights for you while you just held your arms there you wouldn’t build muscle. The same is true for your childs self-confidence. You cannot build this muscle for them. They must build it!
And The Confident Child Program shows you how to help them build this muscle of self-confidence! I give you the exact tools to make certain that every day provides opportunity after opportunity for your child to develop their confidence.
If you keep doing what you have been doing, you will fail. Of this, I feel confident not because I know you personally, but because I do know many of the mistakes you are making. You need a program that tells you what to do, when to do it, what to say and how to say it. The Confident Child is the only program that does that. In this one-of-kind home study program, I teach you how to coach your child to build their own muscle of self-confidence and unstoppable self-esteem.
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– Carolyn, mother of two
– Rebecca, mother of Anna (age 5)
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I hope you do not because the only chance you are taking is the chance of a lifetime to create a healthy child with a strong sense of self-esteem and to live in a home with fewer worries and less fear. It’s a no risk chance to see your child blossom into a remarkably confident and focused student who could take on the world if they just believe in themselves.
You can give them that gift, the gift of strong, confident self-esteem.
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